I hate to play checkers. And because of that, I have never learned to play chess. I find that games where you have long periods of sitting and thinking and strategizing about your next move are not for me. Maybe I just don't possess the patience it takes to persevere and win. I even get frustrated with crossword puzzles sometimes. I've been known to work a crossword puzzle and throw it down when there's just one or two words that stump me. No, I'm an Uno and Spoons kinda girl. Fast-moving to me is what games should be about. And don't even get me started on Monopoly. I know, it feels almost sacrilegious to diss the all-American family board game. But I've had occasions where I played Monopoly into the wee hours of the morning (you know it's true) before it looks like someone is gonna take the game.
Yawn. Just wake me up when it's over.
As one who will not engage in slooooooow-moving games, I must confess that patience is not one of my virtues. I try so hard to be a patient person, and in some things I am. I am patient with my newest grandbaby. After all, she is brand-new to this world and is just learning. And the fact that she is so darn cute makes patience with her so much more attainable. I try to be patient with my elderly dad. In so many ways an aging person is just like a small child. They forget things, so you have to constantly repeat yourself. They are easily distracted so you have to remind them to stay on task. They can even become selfish in their latter years and you have to constantly be the leader and remind them of the right attitude. Believe me, that takes the patience of Job sometimes, and we all know that Job was a patient man. I have great respect for those who work with the elderly.
I think the biggest component of learning patience is the "waiting" for change. I am not good at waiting. I hate to plan a trip, then have to wait till the time comes to travel. I hate to order something and then have to wait until I receive it in the mail. I hate to wait for food and, if I have to wait too long, I cannot be held accountable for my actions. I hate to wait in line at the grocery store. But waiting is important in becoming a patient person because it requires you to be still while the circumstances out of your control are worked out. Have you ever waited in a hospital while your loved one is in surgery? Torture! But it's in the waiting that we learn the art of patience...to sit still and quiet and allow the circumstances to change or the person to change in a way that we can receive that which we're waiting for. It's a hard lesson indeed.
So right now I'm in the waiting process once again, and enjoying (ha!) yet another lesson in patience. You'd think that I would've mastered it at this point in my life, but it's just not the case. We're trying to patiently wait for a house to sell. We're patiently waiting on paperwork to be finished on closing our next renovation project. Once I see what could or should happen, I want it to happen now. My part of a renovation project is usually at the end of the project. I have a vision early on, but seeing that vision a reality takes long months of hard work and patience. Unfortunately, by nature I am an instant kind of girl, and I think living in an "instant" society doesn't help me at all. We are instant everything...instant food, fast internet, almost instant travel from one place to another, and spray-on tans are a few things that come to mind! I guess that's why I like fast-moving games. I like things that are instantly gratifying and quickly improved and situations that are easily remedied. To arrange cut flowers takes a short amount of time to beautiful gratification, but to grow those flowers? Lots of sunshine, water, good soil, and a healthy dose of patience brought on by the waiting process from seed to bloom. Life rolls along sometimes at the slow pace of a Monopoly game with no end in sight. Life forces us to wait, wait a little longer, and then wait some more. It's life at its hardest sometimes, having to wait.
I would totally bet that right now you're waiting for something...maybe it's your health to improve...maybe it's someone else's health to improve or their attitude to change. Hey, maybe it's your attitude that you're waiting on for change. Maybe it's a new baby on the way, or a living, working, or financial situation. Whatever it is, embrace this waiting period as a lesson in patience. It's a class that will cost you nothing in monetary commitment, but will bring great reward. Remember that waiting is what teaches you patience and patience is virtuous, and we all want to have virtues, right?
And while you're waiting, take on a game of checkers or chess. It might make you crazy, but at least it'll pass the time.
Photographing children takes a LOT of patience, but the reward is beyond worth it... during this photo shoot, I stepped on sharp twigs with bare feet, just about hit the deck carrying this chair outside, and had to go home and take a nap afterwards! It's all good!
(To see the entire photo shoot, go to my "Photography" page)
"Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world."
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