Lately I've been thinking about the simple act of reflecting and how reflecting, whether we are the entity reflecting or the entity being reflected upon affects every single person. My first thought is about mirrors. I use mirrors a lot in my decorating, and there is hardly a room in my house where there is not a mirror on at least one wall. Mirrors are a great way to increase light in a room for their reflective qualities and for making a room seem larger.
Many of us have a love/hate relationship with mirrors. When we're feeling good about our self and have our hair done and our makeup on, we don't mind standing in front of the mirror so much. And I'll admit it, when I'm feeling positive I might stand there a moment longer and enjoy feeling good about myself (not too long, though!). And I know you do the same thing. Come on, now; you know you do. If we have a new outfit or a great new pair of boots, we examine every angle in the mirror to make sure the "reflection" is acceptable. After all, we want our reflection to be positive. But I, for one, tend to avoid mirrors when I'm not feeling so great about myself. With no makeup, a few extra pounds from too much holiday over-indulging still hanging on, and unkempt hair, the mirror is not my friend. My eyes tend to go straight to the belly bulges, the blemishes, and the scraggly hair that is about three inches too long and roots that, as much as I try to deny it, are mousier gray than the little critters that live in the field near my house.
So I guess mirrors are a reflection of what is real, at least most of the time. Recently in a hotel, the full-length mirror was on the "thin" side; do you know what I mean? It made you look at least 10 pounds thinner. I think that's probably a pretty smart strategy for a hotel because they want folks staying in their facility to feel good. And if they're feeling trim, they're more likely to indulge in the French toast they offer for breakfast or the late-night calls for room service. But not long after that, I was trying on a jacket in a store in front of a mirror that made me look frumpy and about 20 pounds heavier. I can never figure that one out because what store wouldn't want their mirrors to make you look your absolute best? It would be a minor investment with major results! Needless to say, I put the jacket back and didn't buy it. Because of the many variations in mirror quality, we may never know exactly how we look, if it's the truth or a lie, and that is fine by me when it comes to body image. I choose to believe whatever is more positive. I guess I'm an optimist to the core.
Other things are reflectors as well. Shiny metal reflects and is another way to "up the light-factor" in a room. The moon reflects the light from the sun and gives us just enough light to rest at night, yet not be in complete darkness (well, the moon and the stars). In the right lighting, a pond can reflect the trees and clouds that overshadow it, pulling out oohs and ahhs for the beauty it produces. In photography, light reflecting onto the subject is imperative for a good, clear image. Our minds can reflect as well...on important issues, intimate experiences, things that marvel, or troubling confrontations perhaps. The act of reflecting or being reflected is a pretty deep subject on which to "reflect," haha. The greatest reflectors I can think of are people themselves. But the difference is we, as the reflectors, reflect back to others what we see in them but also what we reflect from the inside about ourselves. When we have a child and our mannerisms, good looks, and positive attributes are reflected in that child, we are so proud. But not so much when they reflect something we've done or said or acted-out that is less than positive; then we are ashamed. I tell my children and my good friends with young children they must be careful with their little ones in what they do and say, and in the actions and attitudes they reflect, because children are like little mirrors...good or bad, you see yourself in them.
What do you, as a human mirror, reflect back to the people who look at you day in and day out? Are you reflecting joy and happiness to be alive and have yet another day on planet earth to bless and be blessed? Are you reflecting indifference as someone who has no passion for anything, and even less passion for people? Are you reflecting bitterness or anger for something that has happened in your life or for someone who has wronged you? Are you reflecting positivity to them by encouraging words? Whatever our experiences, it is possible that we can be reflectors of good. It's not always easy, but it's always possible. Light is the most positive thing we as human beings can reflect on other human beings. Because to reflect light is to pay it forward. When you reflect light onto someone else, they pass it along and reflect that light onto another. Darkness and negativism might be passed along as well, but it will never have the happy ending that comes when light is emitted.
I love a lot of natural light in my home. The first thing I do every morning once the sun is up is to throw open all the curtains and blinds and let the glorious light in. If it happens to be rainy or an overcast day, I may pull the blinds all the way up in order to catch every single bit of light I can. As half of a couple who buys houses to fix up and resell as part of our living, I will only approve houses that have a lot of natural light or that can be made to let in more natural light. Light is not only pleasing to me, it is almost as important as food and water when it comes to my wellbeing. My husband relies on me to see the possible places that have potential and for me that potential always includes a lot of natural light. I believe most people are like that. We need food, we need water, we need love, and we need light to be completely healthy.
What are you reflecting today?
I love the way the light dances off my girls' hair in all three of these images!
"We will be remembered for what is reflected by us and through us and ultimately out of us onto others. We are like mirrors that give back to every person we encounter, but it's always what we put in
that is reflected back."
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